Now You’re Talking My Language

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Now You’re Talking My Language

Written by Liyah Mai Leoni.

Love is a word that makes us glow from within. That reason your smile is a little wider, the reason we get caught up in daydreams; thinking about ‘our love’ and the ways ‘our love’ loves us.

Love is truly something we all deserve to feel and to give. But we mustn’t forget to nurture love.

How one person loved you will not be the same because we all experience love differently. Sometimes we caught up in the ‘idea of love’ we forget to be present with love.

Love is known as a universal language; however, it has different accents, tones, and languages within, 5 to be exact.

 

There are 5 common love languages

Words of Affirmation (Write me Love Notes)

Actions speak louder than words—unless, your partner's love language is "words of affirmation." In this case, words are everything!

Whether spoken or written on post it notes scattered across your home. Hearing and seeing these words are of great importance. Words are like music to their ears, and the little things such as "I love you because..." and "I appreciate you for..." will transcend like vibrations of love to their hearts.

The key is to express your love through words, texts, tagging them in uplifting notes or memes. The little things go a very long way.

Quality Time (Focus on Me)

Love and affection are expressed through undivided attention.

Put down the phone, devices and the distractions and tune into them connectively. Eye contact and actively listening; quality over quantity.

When you get together, they feel loved if you are present and focused on them.

The key is to be present and make the time to connect other conversations and spending time together. Scheduling time in or spontaneously spending time.

Physical Touch (Close To You)

This is more than sex; they desire to be loved through physical affection. 

This could be holding their hand, a random hug while they chop vegetables in the kitchen, placing an arm over them or pulling them close to you.

The key is to simply be close to them with the smallest gesture of touch. An ideal moment would be cuddling on the couch with a glass of wine and a good movie. Because all they want is to be close to their partners physically.

 Acts of Service (Think of me)

The thought behind the action is what makes their hearts flutter. Whether it's running them a bathtub at the end of a long day, picking up something from the store as small as candy they like just because you thought of them. The little gestures and acts of service go a very long way.

The key is in the little things; the details and thought behind the action. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture; it can be as small as turning up volume when a song they love plays.

Receiving Gifts (Gifting From The Heart)

Those whose love language is receiving gifts is definitely one that also requires thought in the gifts themselves. For it is not the purely the gift itself but the effort, thought and time taken into giving that gift. They do not expect gifts, the love is receiving what is behind the gift.

They key is to take the time to pick out something specifically for them and their nature of liking. It lets them know you have them in mind in this action and are actively listening and communicating with them. They remember each gift and attach it to a moment or memory and when they have that item, they feel love.           

We all express and feel love differently. Consequently, understanding those differences can make a serious impact on your relationship. It’s very common that your partner's love language not the same as yours. It takes a commitment and profound selflessness to learn someone else’s Love Language.  Ideally, you both want to express love in a way that is meaningful to the other. But the entire purpose of the love languages is that you would learn how to love your partner in a way that makes sense to them.

Take the test together and open up the communication once more on the subject of love. Even if you already know your love language it might be worth doing it once more as over the years my own has changed

Let us know what your love language is and if you want us to dig into this subject more

Sincerely Yours,

Liyah Mai Leoni

Useful Links https://www.5lovelanguages.com/


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